There are things we just know! More than ever we need to trust this knowing. When we are born, there is an inner guidance system each of us has access to and yet, we begin to lose touch with this as we grow into our life here on earth because emotions and feeings were not valued by those closest to us in the past. This is the key to our knowing – feelings are part of the physicality of knowing. We learned to turn instead to our outside world where our experiences are perhaps discounted, our feelings ignored, and we begin to distrust what we intuitively know and listen instead to those who are our care takers or those who intimidate us with their authority.
Part of the earth experience then becomes a return to our truer nature where we can again listen to the highest quality of communication available to us. Of course it is not that easy when we have endured many years of abusive self talk which speaks of all that you are not. But it is indeed part of your richest education to re-pattern your thinking and practice this art of deepening silence beyond the critical voices of judgement, shame, or guilt that are so prevalent in our current culture.
So how is this accomplished? By peeling back each layer of your emotions when you find yourself reacting to a person or circumstance to see what belief you are holding about yourself or another. In this way you begin to identify the origin of where this belief was seeded and recognize that it may have been a distortion of a truth stimulated by the fears of others or perhaps your own fear of survival. It is from this place one can distinguish between the “immature being” and the “whole self” and perhaps choose to respond differently.
You see what we do as humans is compartmentalize our feelings when they are too intense for us or others to deal with, putting them away with their associated memories. Unfortunately unless they have a healthy channel to express, we begin to create a belief about ourselves or another, that isn’t necessarily true – that there is something wrong with us to feel as we do or that our world is not safe. The problem is that when we put aside these feelings and are not able to express them or be validated for them, we constrict the flow of love for ourselves which can accumulate and become a hardened energetic “mass” within us which eventually turns into either physical or mental illness. Conversely, if it is expressed outwardly unconsciously toward another without unlocking that original experience that produced the feeling, it can show up as an abuse to one who does not deserve the intensity of those accumulated feelings.
In our world today we have alienated ourselves from our Self. We have learned to turn away from the intensity of our emotions and feelings instead of leaning into them because we have not known how to channel them safely and they were not accepted by the culture at large. The result is we have become a society of ill-health both psychologically and physically, dominated by a lack of intimacy or kindness toward ourselves and others. We don’t trust our innate knowing because right from the start of life, our feeling nature has been tied to it and for most of us, that has not been validated. And without this guidance system, we continue to distrust what we truly know.
My invitation to you is to provide yourself with a safe environment, a sacred space when strong emotions arise so you can express and witness the intensity of your feelings; love and accept it all. Take them to the origin where your beliefs formed around love of self and your right to happiness were planted so there might be a dissolving of those internal compartments of unexpressed emotions. Feel without judgement. Return to a place of trust in your feelings and acknowledge that you “know”. In this way you open to the flow and remembrance of your multi-faceted Self and become the feeling, compassionate being you have been all along.